Kesha On Celibacy: Why She Masturbates to Gratitude Meditations
After a nine-year legal battle, Kesha says reclaiming her sexuality felt like a miracle — yet she’s mostly celibate now, quipping, "I’m celibate except for when I’m in Italy," on the Call Her Daddy podcast. She has previously said the ordeal left her struggling to orgasm.
Kesha is back to talking about sex and healing like only Kesha can: blunt, a little wild, and very much in control. On the new Call Her Daddy episode that dropped Wednesday, May 6, the 39-year-old says getting her sexuality back after that nine-year legal fight felt like 'a miracle' — and yet she is 'mostly celibate' these days. With one extremely specific loophole: Italy.
Where she is right now
Her current setup: celibate by choice, except when she is in Italy because, in her words, there are 'some f***ing kings' there. She calls herself 'very single' and says the abstinence is intentional. She is 'calling in a f***ing king' and wants her body to match the future she is manifesting: 'Your body has to align with your reality before it shows up in your life.' She also cops to a past habit of falling for red flags, so she is staying single on purpose to break that pattern — 'progress, not perfection.'
The part that will make you do a double take
Kesha says she previously struggled to orgasm because the stress from her legal battle wrecked her relationship with pleasure. That has flipped. She starts her mornings with gratitude meditations — something she has talked about before — and, yes, she has taken that to its logical, very Kesha place.
'Now, I actually masturbate to gratitude meditations. Don't knock it 'til you try it.'
Her larger point: after everything, she had to retrain her brain to believe that pleasure is allowed, and she works on that 'every f***ing day.' In her words, it is absolutely OK for a woman to feel pleasure, period. Honestly, the clarity is refreshing.
Why this all hits different: the long legal backdrop
- 2014: Kesha sues producer Dr. Luke (real name Lukasz Sebastian Gottwald), alleging he assaulted her in 2005. She says she woke up in his bed 'sore and sick with no memory' of how she got there, and alleges he threatened her career if she spoke up. He has always denied the accusations and fired back with a defamation lawsuit.
- August 2016: Kesha drops her initial lawsuit.
- June 2023: After years of scorched-earth litigation, they settle the defamation case.
- Net result: a nine-year slog that she says made reclaiming her sexuality feel like 'a miracle' once she got her freedom.
Bottom line
Kesha is rebuilding intimacy on her terms: mostly celibate, very single, manifesting a partner who actually deserves her, and reprogramming her relationship to pleasure through daily practice — with a cheeky Italian exception. It is candid, a little unexpected, and very her.