Benny Blanco is keeping one part of married life off the mic. On the Tuesday, May 12 episode of his Friends Keep Secrets podcast, the 38-year-old producer shut down a very direct question from cohost Lil Dicky about his sex life with his wife, Selena Gomez, 33.
"I'm not allowed to talk about that publicly."
"No, I'm just, like, a gentleman."
To be clear, he also said there's no NDA involved. No paperwork, just personal boundaries. Classic Benny answer: low-drama, a little shruggy, and moving on.
And yes, that was the same Lil Dicky who asked the question and also officiated their wedding. That overlap tells you a lot about how tight their circle is.
The road to Mr. and Mrs.
- 2023 - They start dating.
- September 2025 - They get married, with Lil Dicky, 38, officiating.
- March 2025 - In Interview magazine, Benny gushes about their early days, saying their second hang flipped a switch for him and he told his mom, "This is the girl I'm going to marry."
- Post-wedding - A source told Us Weekly that Selena had nerves before their first look, then spent the whole day smiling and crying happy tears. She kept telling guests it was the best weekend and the best day of her life.
- March - Selena pops up on Benny's podcast and calls the wedding a "pivotal moment." She says that's when she realized, "I want this," and shouts out Lil Dicky for nailing the tone as officiant - laughs where you want them, emotion where you need it. She also admits stepping into Benny's world was fun and exciting but different for her at first because she was shy and didn't know many people. He helped by introducing her around.
Since the vows, it's all read as very steady: he's still describing her as his best friend, she's talking about how the day reoriented her life, and their friends are literally part of the production. Public about the relationship, private about the bedroom - honestly, that split makes sense.